SLEEPLESS

I was trying my best to gather some sleep today but I had a list of thoughts that kept me awake : SOME OF THEM WERE :
1.ARE THERE ANY PROSPECTS OF EMOTIONAL EVOLUTION LEFT IN US ANYMORE?
2.WHAT IF ALL OF US START LOSING TOGETHER IN THE RACE THAT WE VIRTUALLY RUNNING INTO ?
3.WILL THE SUCCEEDING GENERATIONS BE ALL THE MORE MECHANICAL OR WILL THEY BE EXHAUSTED OF TECHNICS?
4.WILL WE EVER HAVE AN ENLIGHTENED BEING AGAIN ON EARTH TO THE TRUEST SENSE OF THE TERM?
5.ARE WE PERFORMING THE SAME RITUALS EVERYDAY WITHOUT EVEN  REASONING THEM?
6.ARE WE INTO A VIRTUAL WAR WITH THE TRENDS AND TRADITIONS AND PLAY CONVENIENTLY WITH THEM AND CHANGE THEM AS IN HOW WE WANT?
7.ARE WE RESPONSIBLE ENOUGH FOR TREATING OUR COUNTRY OUR WORLD, THE SAME WAY AS WE DO,  OUR OWN HOMES FOR THAT REASON?
8.DO MIRACLES STILL HAPPEN? OR ARE WE LEFT TO OURSELVES BY THE CREATOR TO DO WHAT WE LIKE WITH THE EARTH FOR IT’S BEYOND CONTROL NOW?
9.WHAT DO WE CONSIDER GREATER OUR NEEDS OR THE PEOPLE AND PLACES WHO NEED US??
10. WHY HAVE PEOPLE STARTED LOSING FAITH, SO MUCH ON THEIR OWN SPECIES,  THAT THEY NEED A RECEIPT,  A BILL FOR EVERY NOMINAL TRANSACTION?
11.HAVE WE STOPPED WRITING PERSONAL LETTERS, COMPLETELY? NO HUMAN TOUCH EVEN FOR INVITATIONS OR DISTRESS NEWS?
12.DO WE BELIEVE OUR DOCTORS, NEIGHBORS, FRIENDS, FAMILY, MAIDS etc. Enough?
13.ARE THERE HIDDEN FACTS AMONGST SOUL MATES,  IF YES, WHY  CALL THEM SOUL MATES, IF NO, DO WE TELL THEM IN THE FEAR OF BEING CAUGHT BY PRIVATE DETECTIVE OR CCTVs?
14.DO WE LOVE OUR PARENTS JUST BECAUSE WE HAVE BEEN BETRAYED BAD BY AN OUTSIDER AND HAVE NO OPTION BUT TO SEEK RELIEF?
15.ARE WE SCARED THAT MY SIBLING, RELATIONSHIP,  MAY JUST INHERIT MORE THAN ME OR GET RICHER SOME OTHER WAY?
16.DO WE HATE TO SEE SOMEONE WE KNOW,  DOING BETTER THAN US?
17.ARE WE PERFECTLY INFORMED OF WHAT IS GOING AROUND THE WORLD ESPECIALLY IN DISTRESSED COUNTRIES OR JUST BOTHERED ABOUT THE NEXT EPISODE OF THE DAILY SOAPS?
18.SHALL WE RISK AN HARASSMENT TO SAVE A WOMAN OR CHILD IN DANGER OR JUST WALK AWAY?
19. HAVE WE ALMOST COMPLETELY SHIFTED TO JUNK FOOD AS STAPLE AND FEAR GOD ONLY WHEN WE DO SOMETHING WE KNOW IS INCORRECT?
20.ARE WE ALMOST AT THE BRINK OF A MORAL COLLAPSE?
PLEASE SPARE TIME TO ANSWER THEM?
Thank you for reading through…
Anubrata (Yugadhikari)

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NEIGHBOR’S EYE

Unlike other animals amongst whom social relationships, post the process of procreation hardly matters, human beings are technically created to be sensitive to relationships throughout their life.

We as most advanced creatures of the Almighty- define lawful and unlawful relationships in our own terms for all genders.

However, just when we find that some untoward relationship around us is visible & it does not fit into the stipulated formula for the society we begin to stigmatise it. All of us would agree that we generalise , feel amazed & rethink on the acceptability of the relationship.

I wish to cite a short example on this-

A young, jovial and bubbly lady in her mid 20’s is apparently a teacher to a bunch of young boys who perhaps would be of her contemporary age or a year junior at the most. She, being a post graduate has sufficient qualifications  to be teaching others. However, the very fact that the age difference is seemingly low and in addition to the fact that she is still young to be a formulated teacher ( as per social terms ) raises quite many eyebrows in the neighbourhood. The scepticism of our society in such an instance is valid.

ORTHODOXLY WHY?

Because  I have also  read of many instances in the media where many kinds of crime including socially polluting , murders due to infatuated rejections, and an eventual ill  impact on successive generations has occurred. The question, therefore is, whether perhaps, an honest , rightful, sanctified teacher of the age as mentioned is doing anything incorrect or is it our stipulated rules , incorrect?

It is basically quite an unsolved issue while on the one hand , we are virtually, hindering some one from exercising their liberty to practice the profession they want, on the other hand, whether the profession is duly practised may remain quite a  mystery behind doors of individual homes.

This topic does not end here as actually this gender vis-vis relationship does not have anything in black or white, it is all in grey. We may continue this aspect in case of co mingling of any two persons of opposite genders in any venue concerned.

They may just be casual friends. They may be in love, may be an acquaintance only. We as social beings stigmatise, add fire to it and bring the two individuals to the brink to either part or even rethink whether they are allowed to remain an acquaintance in the neighbour’s eye.

Please share your  thoughts in the comments section below.

Thank you for reading through….

Anubrata(Yugadhikari)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Marriage vs Mela

The colonial rule in India had supported their expenditure on building summer capitals in Shimla and depriving the needy sections of society by projecting that Indians have a lot of money already in spending on pompous marriages and festivals.
Today, the same colonialism is felt when society,  family and the participants of the marriage themselves press their parents to spend as much as possible on their marriages.
I met a lady in Bengaluru,  who on the day of her daughter’s marriage was inviting closed ones for GRIHA PRAVESH,  I congratulated her but inquisitively asked whether the house she is shifting from is nomore accommodative..  She answered that she had sold her property for her daughters marriage and instead took up a one room kitchen to stay with her husband and invested all that they had to get her daughter married in the most lavish manner possible. I was not surprised. This is familiarity now.
When we as children used to go to large wedding celebrations and used to be served by caterers and were able to be seated as guests and did not have to look for seat around with food plate worth Rs. 1000/- and not have a chair to sit in the fair like marriage   the status symbol would be the size of the fish and the number of dishes on the menu.  The scenario has changed now ; The status symbol now,  is how large the Mela is- When the guests enter – they start with pani puri and leave with gold plated or at the least silver coins.
The expenditures are increasing,  so is the criticism immediately after the guests leave the venue ,  when they feel there is something missing in the fulfilment of their expectations as guests   Maybe they were expecting a stall for dart game,  or monopoly that didn’t exist or maybe the cuisine needed some more than just Thai, Japanese,  or Italian.
There is no harm in spending on happy occasions but the pressure exerted on those who find it difficult to afford is a worry,  it is though natural for every member to feel under privileged unless they are able to keep pace with trends.  (Say for example,  not having a mobile phone today is not just out of trend but inconvenience too, we tend to ask members from every strata if they possess a cell phone to ensure easy communication) Likewise not spending on marriages sound not just out of trend but implants suspicion on the minds of family and fellows as to what the reason behind not celebrating the marriage could be? (The simple answer to the suspicious mind is : MARRIAGE by definition of Vedic era terms is a conjunction between two individuals, it’s a choice of living together and the social sanction for their biological needs may be approved anyways, without having to spend)
I askef the other day to a not so well to do lady around as to what her biggest concern is –  She replied,  she had to save to spend on her daughter ‘s marriage and needed out of proportion sum.  I advised why doesn’t she keep it simple,  she replied, her daughter demanded she must not be sent like a pauper from her house to her in laws and that would also make sure that she got sufficient amount of respect when she entered her new home.  The reason cited was disturbing,  as if her daughter didn’t realise,  how much her parents was capable of.  She insisted on LED tv set, and a second hand vehicle for her and her husband,  which was very apparently a huge burden for her parents.  When I spoke about the same thing to one of my neighbor and in the casual talk,  I mentioned why don’t people instead donate blood,  feed poor and needy,  or take care of sick and old to mark the beginning of  a new journey with divine tasks,  my neighbor replied the good things are done as show off,  I without being vocal about my thought further wondered,  isn’t spending  on marriages,  purchasing  a saree,  lehenga,  or expensive dresses and jewelry that are too heavy to be worn again,  show off too…??
Pompous marriages or for that reason celebration of any festival with too much of extravaganza is taking a toll on the savings of those parents who shall need it in their old age once their children leave,  similarly,  maintaining a  reputation by virtue of marriages that are expensive may not be a good idea. (recently read about the split of one of India’s top ten richest man’s daughter after having spent abundant money for the wedding).
The money,  time,  effort can rather be saved for a future that is progressive,  modern and contributing to the society.  Youngsters need to take efforts today in refusing to spend anything unwarranted on their wedding and utilise the resources in getting a good,  secured, life for their parents who are aging and the society that needs them and their continued contribution for better and rational reasons..  I have attached a simple example of a progressive contribution by a wedding group for your glance…
Please share the thoughts to friends and family for a better society.  Your comments, criticism and appreciation is essential.
Thanking you for reading  through..  Anubrata (Yugadhikari)

BLAME GAME

We have entered a race without intent.

With evolution from Australopithecus to the modern geek world today ( where all of us are almost tech-savy) we have come a long way.  It is not surprising as when we delve deep into our specian brain,  we realise who and why would the first sapien think of striking two stones at all? (which as we all know created fire) thus the inter stellar reach for humans and bringing the world into hands vide technology is no herculean task for human brain.  We are all enjoying progress,  comfort,  knowledge and skillful up gradation of our lives,  however we don’t wish to admit that we are losing time with fellow mates,  family,  children and nature for it. 
We simply like to roll the ball into the court of our kin and find suitable occasions to tell each other that you have remotely failed in being what as a social being you are supposed to be..
To cite an example,  I was having a coffee with a recent partner of a decade long relationship that ended into a shredder.  He mentioned that he felt that his lady love was inclined to a man who was working with her as he was capable of sparing more time with her than the other guy who was busy in his schedule..  Without going into further details I asked if he wished to give it another chance..  He mentioned he wouldn’t even want to think of it..  Surprisingly the guy who refused to accept the intricacy of a heart break did not realise that the very  reason he was adamant on not thinking of her but was sub consciously looking for reasons to talk of how betrayed he felt when his lady love walked out was because he was hung. He was hung by masculine hard-line emotions,  and was yet wandering into how and why things ended between them. I was eternally thinking that moment,  who in this situation was to blame?  Was it the woman who was feeling neglected under the realm of work pressure that strained their relationship,  was it the guy who entered into their relationship just at the right  place and when there was rift available or was it the guy who felt that a good career is equally important as is his love but didn’t realise that this could turn things undermining his emotions to this extent that he would be left empty..

While I walked home and pondered on it,  I drew that none, NONE WAS TO BLAME,  let us think over it  again,  while you could leave your comments below to agree or disagree but the participants in the scenario mentioned above didn’t have time.  They were running out of scope to meet regularly or spend time which is essential in any relationship as with the number of people we meet in our lives it is not difficult to have people out of sight out of mind in no time.  They therefore preferred,  to be with collaboratives at the same work place to save time on being together.  As if all emotions are no emotions anymore but have become documented doctrines essentially to be followed as members of the society.

The above scenario may sound clear-eyed as major love and break up scenario but it is not true.
Let me take the liberty of writing a little more on this and mention about mother – child relationship as I see around today. I may sound hysterical being a woman myself to say that working mothers may not be remedial in the over all  growth of their respective children.  Perhaps this was the reason that in Vedic era women were expected to stay at home and take care of their homes instead of doing laboured jobs.  On the contrary when we had thinkers like gargi and debaters like ahilya,  perhaps because they did not have to take the ownership of a second life with them. A marriage may be a man made institution and doesn’t necessarily restrict you to think ahead but a progeny may sound more than just an institution,  as it is a creation,  a life,  brought by the woman herself and the man she is associated with,  whilst the man may not be that associated biologically as a carrier as the mother.  Therefore she is now not one but two not in romanticism like we say the conjunct between a man and woman we say but she truly is not one but two now,  the essence of this being two is now getting diluted. With the increasing pace of rat race for material and money.
Again,  to cite an example,  I have beauty clinic close to my residence whose lady owner has a 5/6 year old daughter,  surprisingly the lady owner is extremely busy in her schedule and has expanded her business to the extent that she has branches around the city for her business,  but her flower like daughter is losing her petals at an alarming rate.  The child is left with the workers in the clinic and is constant fiddler on a mobile phone that she plays with.  There is no space for a playground around and even if there are children around there is no take there as all the children are doing everything possible but playing.  (including martial arts at their least possible interest).  The child therefore wanders all around and sometimes get the attention of the visitors to the clinic who ask her random cuddling questions like what is your name. Which class,  who is your best friend and so on..  She gets annoyed too,  but apparent from her behavior is the fact that her mommy must have given her strict instructions to not misbehave with any visitor as that is getting her newer toys (read mobile phones) so she plainly smiles and answers all questions in the most unwanted and hormonally unfeeling manner.
To sum up,  again I wonder who is wrong,  the mother who has to earn,  and I am sure her intent to earn would be the well being of her child too,  the visitors who is visiting her clinic despite seeing the neglect of the child but encouragingly helping the mother to go ahead in her ambitions or us as society where we are running,  running and  running,  why, where to and until when we don’t know.  Has the race any end,  should the race have an end at all is left to be answered by all of us.
I will be happy to discuss more on this from your comments below.
Please share the post and discuss in detail for more inputs from all around.
Thanks for reading through.  Anubrata.