WHO PAYS?

While we read,  watch,  get cautious, become preventive and even enjoy crime,  thriller and suspense stories. Do we sometimes invest our time to ponder what could be the reason  behind each crime that is committed. Why do we,  as human beings, the most evolved creation of our Lord take the pain of making,  bringing and creating situations in our life and make it tougher for ourselves and our society to live a happy, healthy and safe life instead we could do simple things and not carry the heavy burden of committing crimes and suffering for ages against the offence.

In legal language,  theoretically,  it is read as ‘mens rea’  which in simpler terms refer to the mental condition of a criminal that leads him to commit the crime. It is further explained that if there is no mens rea there is no crime which means unless one really intends to commit the crime. It is not a crime. Therefore the commission of crime is basically all dependent on the actual purpose,  intent and motive to offence.

When we look around we see many such situations where Mr. X and Mr. Y deprived by society,  life,  fortune and sometimes even vengeance that in reality commits the crime because he no longer has the potential health in his brain that can help him restrain from an act that is practically fatal to life and society. However when we dwell further into the justifications of the occurrence we realise that the commission of the crime by Mr. X or Mr. Y is very obvious and natural. Say for example,  he doesn’t have the requisite financial stability to even support one square meal a day,  or he has seen extreme injustice against himself or his closed ones,  and to restore justice to the individual or his family would almost need a whole process of a lifetime and therefore is futile.

Let’s take a fictious example  of a man who was erroneously jailed for years together against the allegation of theft which amounts to maximum of punishment for few months.  He constantly fought to be freed and maintained that he had not committed any crime,  which  was later found to be true but when he felt the heat of injustice burning him for years and having seen that neither his society nor his surrounding has taken the pain or even fought for him,  he refused to seek any bail and then consisted that he should be jailed because he has committed the crime and must not be therfore freed. The authorities after realising their blunder seeks apology and offers to restore his dignity  and other losses that has been inflicted upon him. The years whereas lost was so deeply impactual on him during his youth and vital age that the loss to the society besides himself was practically not possible to be restored or retained.

This instance was of a man who was erroneously jailed, was inflicted with severe harm on mind and life of a youth and in turn our society. This example is a vivid picture of one of the many reasons that could make a potential ground for mens rea as we discussed above.

Let’s now discuss an absolutely different and contrast instance where a man with humangous amount of wealth tries to cover the entire wealth in the garb of social welfare,  supplementary business or even foreign wealth and here in turn deprives the many employees who works for him of their eligible wages. These employees or workers having surrounded with various, newer and colourful extravagant materials seeks many ways of valid and invalid ways to acquire them. This leaves us with a question aren’t both –  the one in abundance and the one dipped in deprivation both incorrect and criminals? The level of incorrectness though varies.

We could thus think, and infact think deep,  why,  who and when should an action or a step as such be taken to maintain the health of our brain equally well just like the way we maintain our body,  or our figure for that reason and that it is not late to return. What may look like a shallow level of envy or jealousy today may turn to a huge level of crime that may cost a life, dignity, civic respect,   severe time and social harm.  There is no return from the clutches of crime or law and even if there is,  it is virtually impossible to return to moral rejuvenation after having lost the mental hygiene. It is important for all of us to make rigorous efforts to avoid any such vice – including  jealousy,  hatred, petty cruelty or anything that our ancestors,  elders,  books and most importantly our conscious tells us not to do at the very micro level to ensure that we don’t need larger treatments tomorrow. It is preventive,  curative and the remedy to any such unhealthy, unhygienic thoughts are home made and absolutely free and available.  We just need to take steps that we make use of those remedies at our individual level and impart them to our successors immediately instead of waiting it to become fatal.

Punch in your thoughts or anything interesting in this respect below…

Thanks for reading through

Anubrata (Yugadhikari)

 

 

 

 

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HOME OR NO HOME

Once we open our eyes into the world certain gifts are  bestowed on to us like-PARENTS, FAMILY, FRIENDS, BIRTHPLACE & most importantly is OUR HOME , THESE ARE NOT BY OUR CHOICE but given to us by the Almighty. All of us over time get accustomed to this happily & adopt to it so well that we begin to fall in love with these things by the time we are in sensible age. The warmth that we feel is possibly similarly to what we have had in our mother’s womb and now externally in our home, birthplace & surroundings too.

We grow up as individuals with various  choices now & one of the biggest choice we make is to share our lives with a partner by virtue of conjugal ties. However just with this one choice , begins to change most of our aspects in life that had been so dear to us all this while.

Say for example while a prospective groom loves to spend time with his friends , parents , & loved ones his time reduces considerably with them because he needs to share the same with his partner who enters his life quite late in life. While he loves doing this for certain amount of time, at the beginning of the relationship. Eventually , the desire to spend time alone declines & this phenomenon ( if we all are honest to ourselves) is but natural to occur.

Here on the other hand , the bride who is completely into a new ambience a new situation & is dependent mentally on her husband finds it difficult to build up the tempo at a very rapid pace all by herself.

Let us now rewind a little now socially , we cannot deny when marriage as an institution had developed in Indian society and  the concept of Vivah , by virtue  of Swayamvar, Gandharva, Asura or Prajapatya, the institution of marriage intended to bind souls from a very tender age to adopt to each other’s ways. But, we have changed & the change is definitely for our well being as marriage at a later age is found to be more stable, sustainable , healthy & women face less difficulties during childbirth than what happens in a tender age.

However the ill impact of a late marriage is that the two individuals are compact clay and  already well built mentally soulfully, socially , physically, & thus adopting to new terms & ambience is no less  than a  herculean task.

The bride ,who has to leave her home that had been her nest for an age of 25 years on an average in Indian society today & leaves behind many delightful soul candies that causes a rift in the couple when it comes to settle scores during  a conflict.

We have read widely that it is better to be alone than be lonely in a crowd or with someone in a relationship. The very fact that two individuals are making hard task decisions, adjustments compromises is the fact that they no longer remain what they were born as.

This write up does not intend to discourage couples who are willing to sacrifice their pleasures to make place for a new relationship.

The only intent is to find out whether it is essential for anyone to leave anything- like  a woman leaving behind her home and surroundings and in the process brings about an atmosphere of having made sacrifices and pushing for a rift because it is at the end of the day, she who leaves behind all, at a ripe age & stay up with her husband when she may not want to do so.. This in turn causes quite a pressure on the man too to make unwilling sacrifices because he is constantly reeling under the concept of  sacrifices and compromises of the lady.

Instead a marriage could be twined in a wilful, happy relationship that gives a choice to the couple to decide , how, why and what would they like to do to spend their time with each other in a beautiful and jovial stance.

Now that most women & men have their respective livelihood  & sense of earning, the old, metaphor of having a married home & leaving behind everything may not be essential for either gender who is economically well to do.  Rather doing things which are – happy, healthy & pleasing that does not disturb the tranquillity of the relationship may be a better way to look at the tie.

Before I end I would like to cite a common social phenomenon, where a woman who gets married at quite a substantial age of her life , to a man chosen by her family in a different city but by the time she leaves her place and she makes up her mind, that she would have to make many changes in accordance to the new needs of the relationship.  However in the process of making changes , the couple feels that the whole purpose of making up a home and the conjunct of companionship between the two individuals is almost completely lost. The process gets concentrated in making adjustments and compromises instead of reviving and enhancing the beautiful companionship between the two genders. Therefore a home is no home unless it does not go beyond just a daily routine and chores..

Please share in your varied ideas and concepts on this most talked about social relationship of companionship between a man and a woman.

Thank you for reading through.

Anubrata (Yugadhikari).

 

 

 

 

 

 

Woolen Sweater!!

In this chilling weather,  the most important thing that we look for is winter wear- could be sweat shirts, long over coats,  leather jackets, various light weighted shawls and heavily worked covers. We purchase these spending a lot of money online,  bargain with Street sellers and so on.. The trends and  styles keep changing and we move with the herd to follow the trends. However, the warmth in knit sweaters, that our mothers,  sisters,  or anyone who would be expert in such skills are nowhere to be found anymore.  Rarely,  do we see anyone around wearing anything that is woven, knit, embroidered or skillfully painted. Sometimes it is because we find it obsolete and sometimes because it is hard to meet anyone these days who are skilled into it or have the time to spare to create those.
This topic is quiet a delight for the readers who feel that yes we may say that,  women are no longer interested in household and usually feminine skills as before, and, therefore needs quite a detailed discussion (read criticism) ; but that isn’t necessarily true as men used to be equally skilled,  equipped and experienced in manual art since the ancient Indian Harappan Civilization which eventually diminished.  There were artisans, pottery makers,  and painters which were pleasing to every eye.
This traditional and not just in the interior of rural India but also into our homes with Woolen,  Hand-Woven sweaters,  embroidered covers, and other household art works have lost the trend so much that neither the demand nor the experts are anywhere to be found anymore.  People now would prefer playing mobile games, chat over the Internet or maybe watch a quick movie instead of building up a hobby that is creative. (Infact the usual introductory question- What is your hobby? has also been almost buried,  because rarely does anyone have one these days,  there are many ways of spending time rather than cultivating a hobby and wasting time – per logic these days)
The style or hobby aspect can still be sidelined,  what cannot be overlooked is that those of us who are experts only in these skills are facing tough competition due to dipping demands all throughout now and then we blame the Authorities for not being able to rehabilitate the manual workers,  the thought that provokes consciousness is that as members of this society,  do we not have any responsibility to do the least we can to progress as much we can but also retain the heritage and art that made us proud someday in the world.
Say,  we go for tours  all around the country today,  it is so easy today to travel, we upload our innumerable selfies,  posters,  group photos with strange disfigured fingers pointing in some direction. May we not click pictures of the work or the artisans and eventually promote their work,  so that the next time someone else visits the same place,  they know where and what exactly to buy that which  looks good and that it helps to retain the potentiality of our invincibly talented art masters.
We wait for Mega fairs,  malls to bring in few pieces just as a matter of prejudice and we buy them at much higher prices just to ensure that the next time someone visits our home we are able to portray the exquisite choice of collection we have..
The same doctrine applies to the wear,  covers and art work made by our mothers too,  do we realise that the pace in which crafts is losing importance it is but natural that expertise will die one day and in a way that it can never be restored..
I am sure, the generation that knew the skills are almost on the brink of getting over. The least we can do now is atleast take pride in wearing a work that is gifted to us with love,  warmth and affection,  because we never know just the way Indian process of Telegram, Hand  written love letters have gone in the gallows,  so will the warm,  love filled hand woven sweaters.. Time to think and Act!!!

Thank you for reading through…
Anubrata(Yugadhikari)